Why do we get married? Why should we pursue marriage? This article attempts to answer the latter from a Biblical perspective.
Our purpose as Christians here on earth is to glorify God and exalt His name above all. Thus, when it comes to marriage, we should only initiate that process if we see that together, a man and a woman can better glorify the Lord than can each individually, separately. This concept deduces further to encompass the consideration of who one should date or take interest in.
If dating is an introduction to marriage and/or a time to determine if a man or a woman is the Lord’s will for a believer to marry, then any consideration should begin with the question: “Will this person help me draw nearer to the Lord and together can we serve Him more ably than apart?” Such a question calls for the examination of the person in question and the inquirer’s motives.
- Does the person have a sincere love for the Lord?
- Will he or she lay down everything, even life, friends and this world’s happiness for the sake of Christ?
- Is the person’s life heavenly focused or earth bound?
- Looking inwardly, are my desires for marriage and this relationship pure and not simply physically or emotionally motivated?
- Am I seeking this track as a part of my pursuit of the Lord and at His prompting or because I think I need a companion? (Not realizing of course that however great the loneliness may be, “my God is sufficient to meet all my needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19)
This is the question of marriage — to God be the glory? — or to me be the envisioned happiness? Happiness will indeed come when we seek God’s glory, but it will be fleeting if we run after it instead of God.
For more information on Biblical relationships, we recommend the following resources:
- Boy Meets Girl, by Joshua Harris (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye)
- Guys: The Exemplary Husband, by Stuart Scott (foreword by John MacArthur)
- Girls: The Excellent Wife, by Martha Peace
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