Tag: relationships

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. We love, because He first loved us. If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.” ~1 John 4:18-21

In relationships, romantic primarily but also platonic, we often have an element of fear entwined, which leads us to the anxiety, butterflies, and other similar apprehension so common to insecure situations. We fear that if we misspeak or fail to act in an expected manner, the other person will reject us. Although this is more of a secondary application of the above passage from 1 John, I believe that the other person’s rejection is the punishment linked to our fear. Consequently, we do not have perfect love, because we are convinced that their love is in some way conditional. And it may be.

Personal Ponderings

I came across this poem during my time in college and rediscovered it in 2005. The Lord’s plans are perfect and if we wait on Him, He will be glorified, we will be blessed, and the light of Christ will shine brighter.  Read and meditate on this poetic oration of God to His child as it relates to romance and relationships.

A Message to Those Who Wait

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone
To have a deep soul relationship with another,
To be loved thoroughly, and exclusively.

Personal Poetry Ponderings

All mankind seeks security in day-to-day life, but what the unsaved world is ignorant of, is that Christ alone is the key and only solution to this dilemma.  This article presents this case with the support of Scripture.

Whether we realize it or not, we all often seek or place our security in things, circumstances, lifestyles, or relationships. Each of these can rightly give joy and peace to us as believers, but that derived joy and peace needs to be accessory joy and accessory peace. An accessory is an optional addition to a base product such that it cannot stand alone and does not solely contain the functionality of the base product. For example, a car with no accessories has the windows necessary to drive and see one’s surroundings. If we add a moon roof, it will give us a new and enjoyable view, but the moon roof alone is insufficient to operate the car. As children of God, our security and joy must first be found in and founded upon Him. He is the only all-sufficient and unchanging part of our lives. Possessions will be broken or lost. Circumstances will change in the blink of an eye. Lifestyles will be turned upside down. And relationships will fail to provide perfect satisfaction. For this reason, Christ said, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33).

Personal Ponderings Theological

Beginning a relationship can be difficult and may end in rejection several times before “success”.  How are we as Christians supposed to handle that rejection?

If a believer is seeking the Lord in each aspect of his or her life, particularly relationships, what should he or she do with rejection?

Personal Ponderings